“All you can do” is all you can do.
Lust may be one of the greatest destroyers of America today. Do you know why most people can’t seem to control themselves? What controls and changes can assist those who are addicted? We hope to address such matters and help you learn more about this plague and what you can do to help.
You may know that the New Testament was written in Greek. One interesting word in the Greek is that of “thelēma“. It means “desire, pleasure, will”. When this word in the Bible speaks of GOD’s will, it is also speaking of His pleasure. That should be a reminder to us that our will (i.e. the choices we make) is also directly tied to our desires or pleasures. In other words, if we want to stop making the wrong choices, then we have to see our desires change, and that’s something that only the Spirit of GOD can do for us. Yet, He wants us to pray to Him for His help. How many hours have we spent in prayer for His help this week? Praying and Bible reading, however, are not the only things we need to do which we hope to address in the remainder of this article.
What is the effect of hungry eyes? One effect is lawlessness. It was once illegal to commit adultery or have pre-marital sex; in fact, such offspring was called illegitimate. Today, far worse evils abound as we see a nation now not only allowing pre-marital sex or adultery to be considered legitimate, but also almost every sick, twisted, and perverted form of sexuality under the heavens like unto the days of the blood-thirsty Romans and barbaric primitive tribes that America once evangelized. Why? When someone goes to fulfill their eye-gates, the pleasure is never as advertised and it is never satisfying long-term. Therefore, the eyes go back for more and each time the lust seems less fulfilling than the last time, so new areas of desire are then explored to bring the same level of ‘high’ or release of dopamine to the body so that sexual release may be experienced or something akin to it.
“Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied.” – Proverbs 27:20
I find this verse to be both a reflection of my previous comments on the never-ending spiral down of one addicted to lust, but I also find a very serious warning in this verse. Lust may lead you to the fires of eternal torment. If you believe that saying a prayer a long time ago means you are going to heaven, you may want to stop listening to the ‘snake oil salesman’ preachers who sell such a version of Scripture from their pulpits and broadcast ministry platforms. The Bible doesn’t teach that a sinner’s prayer saves you. I challenge you to find such a passage that tells you salvation is by a sinner’s prayer. No the Bible states very clearly over and over and over that salvation is by faith or belief and repentance. This theme is repeatedly resounded. It is not by works or some secret charms or saying a sinner’s prayer much like an incantation. Instead, a sinner’s prayer is where the beginning of your commitment may begin to faith in Christ, but that’s not where faith ends. Faith must continue until death. If you get this wrong, you will be more likely to sin without worrying about the consequences. I believe many people in this nation think they are Christians, but aren’t due to some prayer they said at some time, either to get someone off their back or because they didn’t understand they were making a life-long transfer of their own life to the ownership of Jesus Christ. Others don’t realize how salvation occurs. They think as long as they have good thoughts about Jesus and His resurrection and Gospel that all is well. This is the first and most important hurdle to overcome in your quest for dominance over your own lusts.
Faith saves you and faith keeps you. Faith is often begun with a sinner’s prayer, because at some point you must give your life to Jesus, not just say He’s wonderful without committing to Him. My father asked me when I was young if I was going to heaven when I died. I told him ‘yes’. He asked me if I had ever given my life to Jesus. I got it. I asked him ‘No, do I need to?’ He said ‘yes’ and asked if I wanted to make such a commitment to Christ. I said ‘yes’ of course, because I loved Jesus and had heard all about Him. I just didn’t know I needed to do more than think He was a great person. Jesus stated that the Father will give His Holy Spirit to whomever asks. Paul the apostle said that the Spirit is our seal of redemption. Therefore, it behooves everyone who wants salvation to ask the Spirit to come within them, surrendering their lives to the Spirit’s complete control and giving Him ownership of their lives. In turn, He promises to give your eternal life back to you since you were willing to give this temporary life to Him. What that means is you can’t do the things you want to do such as lust, but what’s great is that He gives His Spirit to possess you, so you don’t have to fight lust or sin in general alone. Something else you’ll notice once the Spirit indwells you is that you now have desires to share the Gospel unlike you ever had before. By the way, repentance is a word that many Christians don’t really understand and it’s probably because many pastors don’t either for many use it in the wrong way. Repentance means “changing your mind” not “turning from sin”. However, part of changing one’s mind would include turning from sin as one realizes that giving their life to Jesus means they will no longer be able to do the sins they once did. But some think repentance means “turning from sin”. It doesn’t. It’s a transformation of the mind. The Spirit and the Word are the agents used by GOD to transform our minds.
“If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him!” – Luke 11:13
“And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.” – Ephesians 4:30
“For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.” – Ephesians 2:8-9
“That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.” – Romans 10:9-11
“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” – 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Be sure you are a believer. Be sure you are living a life of faith in Christ, realizing you have given Him your body to use as He sees fit, which means you can’t use it to fulfill your desires. Again, works have nothing to do with salvation; they are only a symptom that there is faith and spiritual life inside of a person. Faith, however, is something you must continue until you die in order to see heaven, because it is more than just faith in your own ability – it is faith in Jesus’ payment for your sins and it is faith that He will reward you for giving up all the sins you want to fulfill. Let me tell you the real consequences of your failing to live by faith daily to ensure you are in heaven.
A pastor, whose congregation grew to such a point that they changed buildings four times as they expanded, is now out of the ministry. He is very close to me. At some point, we believe he fell into pornography and used “illness” and “cramps at night” as an excuse to not sleep much at night and spend his days sleeping instead. Jesus said that men love darkness rather than light because their deeds are evil. He began to complain he couldn’t work due to the illness and had to “downsize” his work responsibilities. He had been the head of a large congregation where people would visit such as national conservative Christian celebrities. Even while heading that large congregation, he sought to get a job selling insurance on the side with the excuse that his health was poor and he was looking to eventually just do insurance. In reality, it appears he was really trying to get out of the ministry. Perhaps his conscience bothered him. At least at that time it did. A few years passed and then it was more than just staying up very, very late and sleeping in during the day and trying to get out of the ministry into the insurance business, but he was also taking morphine for his “illness” (which we suspect was no illness at all). Between the porn he was potentially consuming in great quantities at night and the drugs, he eventually told his wife that he wanted to resign and move far away from the large congregation to a congregation of only a handful of people and teach at a Christian school. This latter job was part of a new plan this pastor had. He evidently had carefully laid plans to fulfill his lusts. Using this latter Christian school job (which was more like a private school) on his resume, he was able to successfully apply for a job in China teaching English to school girls and boys. It is unknown if any of the girls where he was going were part of the reason he was headed to China. What we do know is that after convincing his wife that this would let him “recuperate” from this illness that no doctors could seem to resolve, he remained in China, blocked his wife from contacting him on his phone, and for some time now, he has not returned to the USA. The wife and his children were devastated. Today, they still don’t know everything that happened, although certain matters did come to light over time that gave them clues as to what was happening. The wife says he is not the same man she married. He has changed so drastically. This man is an example to myself and to every man and to every woman as well that we cannot fulfill our lusts and not suffer the consequences. I have begun to pray for some time that this man will either repent or be taken to his grave by GOD before he shipwrecks his faith, but I fear that he has already done so years ago when he made careful plans to destroy his marriage and turn his back on GOD. Regarding fornication, Paul spoke the following words in 1 Corinthians 5.
“In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when ye are gathered together, and my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ, To deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.” – 1 Corinthians 5:4-5
“Keep back thy servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me: then shall I be upright, and I shall be innocent from the great transgression.” – Psalm 19:13
“Holding faith, and a good conscience; which some having put away concerning faith have made shipwreck” – 1 Timothy 1:19
“For it is impossible for those who were once enlightened, and have tasted of the heavenly gift, and were made partakers of the Holy Ghost, And have tasted the good word of God, and the powers of the world to come, If they shall fall away, to renew them again unto repentance; seeing they crucify to themselves the Son of God afresh, and put him to an open shame.” – Hebrews 6:4-6
Don’t tell me that pastors are so unintelligent or blind today that they can read the above passages (and many, many more like them) and dig into the tenses and meaning of the original Greek language and still give false assurances to people that they can desert the faith and still go to heaven. You can lie to yourself or have a pastor of your choice today lie to you. Those willing to lie to you and tell you ‘once-saved-always-saved’ abound. However, you cannot shipwreck your faith and enter heaven no matter what anybody says. Even Calvin, in his Institutes commentary on the above verse in 1 Timothy chapter 1, was very careful to point out the real possibility of a believer shipwrecking their faith due to a soiled and unrepentant conscience.
Today, your salvation depends upon whether you maintain faith in GOD, and temptation is everywhere, and the devil and the world around you are bent on throwing temptation everywhere you go, and your own flesh is weak even if your spirit is willing. Satan wants you to cast aside your faith and join his children in celebrating their flesh. You can’t keep your life for yourself and give it to GOD too. You have to make your choice to follow GOD and stick with it.
And the obstacles to heaven are real and the number of people jumping into iniquity and outright sexual sin is growing younger and younger. Temptation is on phones, tablets, televisions, computers, new stands, billboards, entertainment clubs, malls, public pools, beach fronts, restaurants, and more. The wise man avoids these and we’ll address this later in the article. Also, it goes without saying that the FCC and the government are not doing their job. In fact, the rise of today’s technology doesn’t help. But we can’t blame technology or the FCC, even if they are conducive to this modern epidemic of lust and porn. We must blame ourselves, because we aren’t required to do any of the above things. If I work from home on my computer, which is required for my job, and am able to place controls in my life, then you can too. How do we react when stats are saying that America is out-of-control? When conservatives are falling like flies to temptation and sometimes in the most perverse of forms? We should expect such behavior when a culture is saturated with immoral images and hungry eyes everywhere. Job, who is a great example to all of us and who the Bible calls a ‘perfect and upright man’ in his spiritual maturity and lawfulness, said:
“I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?” – Job 31:1
Could this be a major reason that Job was considered a perfect and upright man in his maturity? Why have standards of modesty, morality, and decency plunged to such low cultural levels both in the walls of Christian homes and also in the congregational assemblies? And could this be why those outside of Christianity are also sliding even further into more and more perversion, lawlessness, anti-authoritarianism, and the celebration of rebellion? Is there a root reason why the salt is losing its preserving properties in society?
“But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness!” – Matthew 6:23
Is America currently suffering from a fascination with lust in all of its forms? And if so, is this changing how American’s think? Can sin really blind people to their own stupidity regarding the importance of lawfulness, finances, authority, and their own success and prosperity?
“Neither shalt thou bring an abomination into thine house, lest thou be a cursed thing like it: but thou shalt utterly detest it, and thou shalt utterly abhor it; for it is a cursed thing.” – Deuteronomy 7:26
In this article, I hope to give you solutions to help you if you struggle with temptation, especially towards the end of this article under the section called “The Cure“.
“… having eyes full of adultery and that cannot cease from sin, enticing unstable souls. They have a heart trained in covetous practices, and are cursed children.” – 2 Peter 2:14
“Turn away my eyes from looking at worthless things, And revive me in Your way.” – Psalms 119:37
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. “If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. “And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.” – Matthew 5:27-30
Is it possible that lust can take you into foreclosure, divorce, pre-marital sex, perversions, lawlessness, and many other cultural trends? Can it also rob your spouse of what she deserves?
“Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.” – 1 Corinthians 7:3-4
Viewing the above verses, we see a short list of what the Bible says about porn starting to form.
- Lusting after a woman is considered “adultery of the heart” by Jesus Christ
- Don’t allow it in your house whatsoever – protect your home.
- When we are outside of our home in situations we can’t control, we are to “turn away” our eyes from worthless things.
Adam and Eve knew they were naked even WITH clothing made of fig leaves. GOD had to make them coats of skins to ensure modesty.
Also, in the article at this link, you will see that whether a man admits to lusting or not is irrelevant since the Bible is very clear that nakedness is a shame and therefore off-limits. Even after a man recovers from his addiction to porn, how long does it take before his numbness to nakedness leaves and his sensitivity to nakedness returns? Thankfully, many who come out of porn find themselves more sensitive again and restored in both mind and body from the curse of porn. This shows there is help and that porn addiction is not a ‘disorder’, but spiritual warfare of the mind. Later, I will show how science in a Ted Talks episode reinforces this thinking regarding restoration.
Can lust blind people to what they are doing to themselves as an individual or a nation? Can it be a worse enemy than a foreign invader to a nation? Is this why a gentleman in the intelligence community told me that he had the authority to deny the President access to confidential, classified documents many years ago, and that a memo had been intercepted by American intelligence from Russia to one of their agents which stated that they were looking to corrupt the morals and music of Americans?
Do you understand how porn destroys those who are used as actors in the porn industry? Many in the porn industry are known to commit suicide? Human trafficking of various aged youth and adults victimize multitudes. Porn also destroys the viewers. This is why we should never view pornography. Porn is a destroyer. If you are in it, don’t continue.
Did you know that there is a price to pay for those men who continue in their pornography? Ted Talks had a very eye-opening program on this very topic as seen in the video at this link. Be sure to watch this video!!! But the condition is reversible, so that’s the good news!!
Why have standards of decency plunged to such low cultural levels both in the walls of Christian homes and also in the congregational assemblies?
Why did music seem to suddenly change from classical and sacred music that built up the human soul and spirit as seen in many magazine music sales advertisements from the early 1900s to sensual rock music, including sexually perverse and even Satanic music in the mid-1900s? Is there a root reason why? Could it be that the men who are supposed to lead their homes and societies have become infested with pornography which sprang up just prior to the mid-1900s?
Men today are so numbed to nakedness and lustful dancing due to their porn habits (as proven in the earlier Ted Talks video) that it would be no surprise if they were to look at an attractive female with a skimpy outfit and say “She doesn’t make me lust” (while ignoring the Bible’s command about nudity, whether it makes one lust or not). Is it any wonder it doesn’t make them lust when they’ve been secretly viewing far worse?
It might surprise you how many Christian men and even leading pastors are regular secret viewers of pornography. The statistics support this statement.
The vast majority of men in America view porn each month and that includes many who claim Christ’s name. One website article indicates that not only are the majority of Christian men addicted to porn, but that that “9 out of 10 boys and 6 out of 10 girls have been exposed to pornography before the age of 18; the average age of first exposure is about 11 years old. And that men are 543% more likely to look at porn than women.”. What is going to happen to this generation if this trend is not reversed? Can you see how the FCC is one of the chief ways that this nation can be destroyed from within morally in a similar manner as the Federal Reserve can destroy this nation economically from within?
Knowing this statistic on the porn viewing habits of men versus women, is it not telling when the article at this link states that “34% of readers of Today’s Christian Woman’s online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn”. Keep in mind that these are probably the more conservative “soccer moms” of society too with such high stats. In addition to these stats, the article reveals “seventy-five percent of pastors do not make themselves accountable to anyone for their Internet use.”
Another article writer states in his article that his own survey found the stats to be even higher than the previously mentioned article gives regarding the number of Christian men addicted to porn.
Another website states that some countries have banned porn, so why hasn’t America? Obscenity is not free speech. Did you know that “the pornography industry has larger revenues than Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo, Apple and Netflix combined. 2006 Worldwide Pornography Revenues ballooned to $97.06 billion” and that “every second $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography, 28,258 internet users are viewing pornography, and 372 internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines”?
And the child porn industry continues to grow into a giant billion dollar industry. A Senator in Georgia and her husband were killed when she started investigating this monstrous industry within the government. I have a close friend who told me that most of the law enforcement officers within two counties of his office are in secret societies. This doesn’t build trust. Have you ever wondered how certain government departments can track certain websites, but don’t seem capable of blocking them? Could they even be creating them? Is this not the ultimate form of racketeering and could not this be used for blackmail, extortion, and controlling high-ranking and even low-ranking officials in many of our government departments and offices? Could this allow the Occult who created much of our intelligence community to control our leadership and thereby our society? What can we do? We can start by ensuring we aren’t viewing such sites ourselves, and then work to bring more accountability and discuss some of these matters in our local counties.
Meanwhile, babies continue to be aborted due to the irresponsibility of those having immoral relationships and attempting to absolve themselves of the responsibility of their actions. This is a pandemic! It is not an isolated situation. America is hemorrhaging.
Should not the porn industry be blocked by the FCC? Isn’t that their entire job? Their whole purpose for existence? Mainstream America used to ban obscenity and pornography for the majority of the country’s history. Why is it suddenly protected free speech? And why does its perversions get worse each year as society mirrors what is being pushed down the Arpanet (the original internet created by occult intelligence officers). Meanwhile, Americans’ freedom is slipping away from them as they slowly resemble Nazi Germany or Communist Russia more than the American empire that feared GOD and sang about Him in their national anthem and fourth of July independence celebrations with songs like “GOD bless America”! Such songs have ceased … and no wonder.
I believe one of the fundamental reasons that America is slipping into such a state is because of the purposeful removal of the Bible and GOD from public schools and public life, and the addiction of many men, who GOD called to be our leaders, all across this nation to pornography. Without moral leadership from fathers, women have had to take the leadership many, many times across America. The children will continue to be sexually promiscuous which will result in abortions, more and more radical types of sexual expressions, and moral depravity on every level. Why? Because fathers do have that much influence – so do mothers. No wonder families no longer want to hear about Creationism or the Bible or the Truth.
So is this not an extremely important topic for Christians?
Do most pastors preach on this subject? This article isn’t to demonize them, because there are still some who do, but it is to ask the question – “why”? Are the Christians in your community outraged at what is being done to children’s minds by public school sex educators or the widespread availability of porn to them? Is your congregational allies working together to stop human trafficking, and to stop porn, obscenities and smut from being broadcast through television, internet, radio, movies, video games, and media?
Or is there a bigger fish to fry in your congregation? If so, I’m not sure what it might be. Yet, the pulpits and the leaders of many ministries are strangely silent. Have you wondered how Christians who were the vast majority of Americans half a century ago have dwindled so quickly?
Typical American family in 1920.
Have you wondered how Christians whose standards of morality and decency regarding clothing, music, drink, entertainment, and culture have suddenly dropped so fast and so low in such a short amount of time? And who is this new “god” who wants worship that results in most churches celebrating with a sensual concert each week in their meetings? And what has changed the discernment levels of these Christians (if Christians they be) to such a degree that they so quickly enjoy the pagan, sensual culture of the world without a hint of conscience or even a clue that they might be violating the voice of the Spirit in their lives? What has numbed the consciences of American and European Christians so deeply?
Is it possible that some of the pastors you allow to teach you on the radio or television or through books may also be hooked on porn? Is it possible that your pastor or deacons or husband or father is as well? Is this possibly why pastors discernment seems to lack today as they now have begun to embrace outright heresies more and more?
This pandemic of porn and the cultural change it has brought world-wide is so great that the article at this link tells of one boy who was arrested for porn addiction at the tender age of 13 years old. Did you know that the largest consumer group for internet pornography is children between 12 and 17? If the FCC is supposed to be shutting off such materials to minors, then how is this happening? If they know of these websites enough to track this 13 year old, then why can’t they shut down the websites? Why so much mass surveillance? The devil has men on this planet and they are working to further his cause, and will do anything to have their way on this planet. Is it really all about ‘terrorism’? Or is this a way to monitor the thoughts of people on the Arpanet (internet) and to socially engineer our society in a very methodical, tyrannical manner by providing ‘eye candy’ and then tracking those who view it? Is this why certain conservative politicians do well for a while in making change, but eventually drop away? Why would anyone be able to justify smut sites being available to anyone, no matter what ‘justifications’ or ‘end justifies the means’ reasoning is used? Is this not the reasoning that led to the Inquisitions, the confessional booths, and other ways of social engineering in the past? Keep this in mind before you click on a website. Perhaps it will deter you from making wrong choices.
We need to shut down all these industries, make our government do their job and be more accountable to the people, and run such people from our land and block them. However, the reality is that this war may take many years, so what do we do in the meantime?
I have committed myself to the LORD to ensure my eyes are fully dedicated to GOD and my wife. Recently, I have decided to stop watching movies with my wife as much and dwelling more on being productive with my talents alongside her and listening more to audio Bible passages as I perform tasks around the house. It’s all about renewing or renovating our minds to be more like Christ.
It’s imperative to remove anything from our life that triggers thoughts or makes you stumble, regardless of how radical you have to be in making changes in your life if you really are committed to keeping your eyes pure. Obviously, there are times in life where you will just have to look away. I have several godly men friends in my life that also overcame the lie of lust. So there’s hope, my friend.
We all need mercy, grace, purity, and love, not lust, in our lives. Nobody’s perfect. However, we must not remain in sin. We must confess our sins to GOD, forsake them, and commit ourselves to permanent change. This takes perseverance. We must persevere and focus on filling our senses with things of Christ and purity, instead of the world’s entertainment.
“He that covers his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesses and forsakes them shall have mercy.” – Proverbs 28:13
Permanent change can come through putting on the LORD Jesus Christ and making no provision for our flesh to fulfill its lusts, as Paul the apostle phrased it. You should use every way possible to ‘make no provision’ for your flesh, but you must also be committed.
I recommend you spend hours in prayer when you commit yourself if you are truly serious about living victorious. Christian friends, the audio Bible, sermons from godly men, constant intercession and prayer, and avoiding situations, movies, music, or cultural events, things, or places that could lead to temptation are all vital to your success.
What does the Bible say?
“Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed that he does not fall.” – 1 Corinthians 10:12
“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.” – Philippians 2:3
“Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.” – Galatians 6:1
SOLUTIONS TO HELP YOU
Instead of spending any more time talking about how we’ve collapsed as a national culture from the top offices all the way down to the common American, let’s instead focus on helping each other in spite of the culture.
Let’s now get down to some of the steps you can take to make no provision for your flesh. The first and foremost provision is not a “what” but a “who” – the LORD Jesus and His Holy Spirit. Jesus is the Answer.
The second provision is to FILTER ALL “VISUAL PORTALS” IN YOUR HOME whether they be internet, smart phones, tablets, television, movies, or otherwise. We will speak to how you can specifically filter them all throughout the rest of this article. I personally do not have the internet on my phone. One less source of temptation. My wife and I also have not had cable television or any television from the start of our marriage over eighteen years ago. We haven’t missed it at all. You can do this too. Give yourself six months and you’ll be surprised how the addiction wears off quickly. As a person who has worked from home for over a decade, I am required to have internet access at my house. If you aren’t required to do so, you may want to consider ridding yourself of the internet altogether. You’d be surprised how little it is needed, and how much more joyful your life would be and your time spent. If you must have the internet at your home, then here are some helps below.
HAVE A “PASSWORD PROTECTOR” IN YOUR LIFE whether it be your spouse, best friend, family member or pastor. This person knows all the passwords for your “human controls”. You do not. Have only the least amount of devices needed, so you don’t have to always be getting them to enter their password.
WEAR APPROPRIATE CLOTHING by noticing which clothes set off your urges” (i.e. too tight, too loose, etc). Also, wear appropriate clothing from an appearance standpoint for others’ sake. I’ve found that if I’m wearing jeans around the house, temptation is far more limited; whereas, loose sweatpants or shorts could pose more of a problem. Perhaps the opposite is true for the opposite gender or for someone else.
DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE ALONE with temptation without accountability or “human controls”. This may mean moving computers to a central populated section of the house as my family and I have done. Be honest with those around you as to why you are taking such measures to control the internet, TV, etc (no need to get graphic but just in general terms). Do not take “no” for an answer if you are working with others in your household on this issue and let them know how important it is to you. Have the least amount of tech devices around you, not only for temptation sake, but also because most are time-wasters, electricity wasters, money-wasters, and just one more obstacle to successful living. Most people will “get it” including kids. At the same time, be accommodating as possible to your spouse or others when it comes to the aesthetics of the final look so that you don’t create an eyesore for the house. The most important thing is to ensure you are porn-free. That’s far more important to your family’s survival than any inconvenience.
TELEVISION AND MOVIE “CONTROLS”
Many years ago and only a few weeks after I was married, my wife and I decided that we would not have cable television. We only had video monitors by which we could watch movies. There are also ways to get television or movies streamed through computers and through the internet. If you prefer to have no internet, there are DVD mail services, depending upon whether you are single or married or how much accountability you have in your life. For many, it may be better to have nothing.
I do suggest that the men have someone who is the owner of your Password for your entertainment choices (i.e. “Password Protector”). There are even some services that offer help to people, but I believe close family is usually best. Some other ideas that you may or may not need to implement include:
- Have a designated “mailbox courier” for the family (i.e. wife)
- Single people may even want to have the DVDs mailed to a close godly friend who controls the account (to keep them from changing the address of the DVD mailings).
The key is “whatever it takes for my will to break, that’s what I’ll be willing to do” and knowing what level of “controls” will work for you. That attitude is really the main and first step to overcoming and recovering from any addiction. In fact, many of the principles in this article can be used for other addictions.
RESEARCH MOVIES FIRST
Movies can trigger lustful thoughts. If you find you keep losing the battle, you may want to ensure there is no battle – no way for you to see movies at all. Movies can be researched on the IMDB website to see what the Content Advisory says before viewing.
- To see the Content Advisory for any movie on IMDB, be sure to search for the movie using the search engine at the top of their page, then scroll past the Cast members to the section titled “Storyline“. You will find a hyperlink saying “View content advisory“. If you click it, it will usually have the details of any objectionable elements in a movie such as any objectionable words, acts, or sights that one may experience in that movie.
After all, which of the sins that Christ nailed to the cross should I view for entertainment?
TABLET, SMART PHONE, AND COMPUTER FILTERS
Filtering your devices at the wired or wireless router level is important. Having a router that can be scheduled to go down at night can help you avoid finding a family member in the middle of the night looking at inappropriate material. Also, many routers have filtering software on them. Don’t expect the filters to be perfect. They usually still let a lot of filth into your home. This is why it’s best to go without internet if you can. If you can’t, then be sure you have all computers in an open environment, passwords on the computers in order to access the computers at all, and accountability so that nobody is alone by themselves. If you are single, you should seriously look into doing your internet work at the library. It will save you money, time, and give you a much better social life – you might even meet someone very wonderful at the library or even make friends with the librarians or others. Socializing is much better than social media. You can download software from Qustodio for android users or SafeEyes for Apple iPhone users for a small fee (and these products are worth the fee compared to any other services). For desktop computers, SafeEyes is also great or if you need a free choice, K9 Blue Coat Web Protection is great. For a comparison of some top internet filters, you may visit the article at this link. Some internet filters allow you to get alerts if a user in your household is trying to access sites they shouldn’t and to view all the types of items that are being viewed by the users even if the users erase their internet browser history or reset their phone. I also encourage you to outlaw internet usage past bedtime hours using the time schedule feature. This protects you, your spouse, and your children from being tempted after everyone has gone to bed.
YOU NEED MORE THAN FILTERS
A friend of mine from a large ministry once stated that he has learned with his boys that there is no such thing as a ‘good filter’. Keep in mind that there are ways around filters, so I have a couple more pieces of advice for you.
First, you will need someone who is the owner of your Password for you (i.e. “Password Protector”).
Second, after you have given yourself about a month to get used to the internet content filter and have its settings in a place where it blocks evil but doesn’t keep you from business needs on the internet, then you need to implement the next layer of protection. Mac computers have similar features, but I will only speak to Microsoft computers.
For PC users:
- Go to the Start menu, then the Control Panel
- Go to the User Accounts and Family Safety section in Windows 7
- Go to the User Accounts section, and you should see two accounts – one is an Administrator account and the other is a Guest user account.
- Do not activate the Guest user account. Instead, create a new user account for the entire family and call it “Jenkins family” as an example.
- Give it standard user access, but reserve Administrator access only for the Administrator’s account (your ‘Password Protector’).
- This allows your ‘Password Protector’ the only Admin account and therefore the only opportunity to bypass filters.
Just know that if you have admin access, you can bypass filters quite easily with a bit of tech savvy. There’s also a video on Microsoft at this link for you to view and other helpful directions for setting up a user account for those not familiar with setting up Windows User accounts. Keep in mind that Windows 10 is more like Google Chrome – completely and utterly senseless in protecting your kids. You can setup ‘protected’ profiles for your kids, and your kids can just go setup their own ‘unprotected’ profile. It’s almost like these tech giants really want people to view inappropriate things. However, even if you have Windows 10, I would encourage you to get Windows 7. Yes, you will have to endure that fascist little Windows 10 icon that constantly barks at the bottom of your computer telling you to upgrade to Windows 10, but there are even articles online to help you get rid of that icon.
In this way, the “Password Protector” will own the Admin account and will need to add a password to their account. All others will use the standard user account named “Jenkins family” and no password is needed unless desired. The standard user account doesn’t allow you to make changes to the computer, which keeps the techie members of the family from bypassing the internet content filter, whether purposefully or accidentally. It also keeps those “would be hacker” members of the family from disabling the K9 software using hacker software or other adjustments to system files.
Also, the “Password Protector” can also add a second level of protection to their computer using the Parental Controls under their Admin User account at this point by using the viewing time schedule to block all late night slots. This keeps the computer inaccessible from the family from bedtime to morning, thus ensuring an extra hurdle for any family member attempting to bypass the K9 filter at nighttime.
Silicon Valley is the residence of almost anyone and everyone involved with the internet, social media, computer sales, antivirus software, parental controls or national tech companies. If it seems they are out to do everything possible to destroy your family and work against parents to let their children see inappropriate material, I wouldn’t doubt it. Don’t trust any parental controls or other so-called controls that they give to you. Even with all the combinations above, there’s going to be some way to still get past it all. However, the key is to make it far more difficult and less likely, and especially to limit the time allowed on the internet regardless of the whining and complaints it may generate.
WIRELESS ROUTER PASSWORD
As mentioned previously, a great way to really cut out temptation, especially for those using mobile devices in your home, is to use your wireless router as another layer of protection. Your ‘Password Protector’ can own the passcode for the wireless router and add a schedule to the main router for the whole house. By doing so, nobody can use the router at nighttime or whenever you’ve scheduled the router to be ‘down’. You can also ensure that smart phones are unable to access the router this way unless the ‘Password Protector’ enters it for them to download some educational or other apps to their phone. The router password can then be removed at that point. Why? Because there are numerous apps for mobile phones that can completely delete internet parental filters.
For married couples with accountability, they may be able to enjoy wired and wireless combos in which the wireless router cuts off at 10 PM, but the wife can have the ethernet cord locked in a small safe (easily purchased from WalMart), along with her passwords, which only she has the key to access. This allows her to pull the cord out after 10 PM and watch some entertainment late on a weekend, as long as she remembers to put the cord away afterward (otherwise this option won’t work). This gives flexibility. Many other ideas are probably available to those who truly are willing to work hard to protect themselves and their children from sexual temptation. Also, turning your head and teaching your children to turn their heads when something inappropriate comes on the screen is also important to ensure we are teaching our families to not just avoid temptation through controls, but also through sheer will power. However, it is important to use controls to limit the majority of temptation, because eventually will power gets ragged if we are constantly having to exercise it against relentless temptation. Better to be free of sources of temptation, than always having to take a stand at work or home or always having to look away or flee.
OTHER FORMS OF TEMPTATION
Regarding other forms of porn such as magazines or news stand items, we suggest that you be accountable for your time and to always take a family member with you when you know you are going out to places of temptation. This is not only good for temptation, but also good for bonding with other members of your family. This is what one pastor of mine in the past called the “magnetic’ principle. Have a system by which you call your spouse (or roommate or ‘bestie’ for single folk) and let them know that you are leaving the office. If you have problem with renting videos (though not as prominent these days), cancel your card and tell them you’ve decided to spend more time in the Bible and less in video entertainment. Not only will this help you avoid future memberships, but it will give you an opportunity to shine your light of good works before men as Matthew 5 states. This is such an important way to show you are not perfect, but you are forgiven as a Christian. The world has seen enough hypocrites in religion and government who are supposedly ‘fighting’ such vices, but are themselves behind the scenes using an ‘end justifies the means’ mentality and living a life of hypocrisy. It’s easy for any of us to become this way if we start acting like we are doing things for a ‘good reason’.
Keeping yourself very, very busy with family, people, and things you need to accomplish in life such as fine arts, crafts, hobbies, side jobs, evangelism and ministry outreaches, and other great uses of time are also important.
In my opinion, one of the main causes that people commit sins of commission is because they are committing sins of omission. Sins of omission are failures to do something for GOD, while sins of commission are violations of GOD’s law. In other words, if we are busy doing what we know is right like evangelism, loving our neighbors by helping them out as needed, and being active in fine arts, crafts, and politics as salt and light in our community, then we will be less likely to have the time to sit around looking at things we shouldn’t be viewing.
Are you ambitious? Do you have a list of things you want to get done for Jesus Christ before you die? Do you have a list of things you want to accomplish in business before you die? Do you have a purpose for living, except to give yourself pleasure? Do you invest in others? If you can’t answer ‘yes’ to all the above questions, you may need to sit down and start writing lists, even if it goes against your natural human nature which tends towards sloth, self-pleasure, and the fetal position in life. You must get active or you will find too much time on your hands which will lead to great temptation. If you spend more than a couple of hours on the internet each day for ‘fun’, then you need to get off the internet and schedule other things that force you to stay busy. Idle hands are the devil’s playground as the old saying goes.
Be very careful of any “recovery programs” where you have to tell your “dirty secrets”. Unlike Jesuits or other priests in confessional booths across the world (many of whom are child molesters and sex addicts themselves), we really don’t need to hear your dirty secrets in order to offer you solutions in this article, so think about that for a moment. In a sense, the internet is a huge confessional booth for the Occult to use in all of their business of blackmailing, extorting, tracking, monitoring, and finding dirt on their enemies. While the NSA and other mass surveillance techniques are illegal, I have determined that I want to live my life in such a way that there will be nothing for them to find as I told my wife recently. That doesn’t mean I’ve lived a perfect life or that those ‘occult or governmental confessors’ are doing the right thing. It does mean that this new mindset is something that can challenge me and perhaps you as well.
“All have sinned and come short of GOD’s glory”, the Bible says. We all need forgiveness for various things we have done both in secret and publicly. Instead of asking for you to tell us the dirty things you have done or monitoring your lives (which would only dirty our own minds), we want to offer you helpful solutions for absolutely free. We don’t want to hear your tales of temptation. Take them to the Wonderful Counselor, the Perfect Sacrifice, and the only GOD who will be able to forgive you. Most men in all walks of life, whether clergy, government, or counseling, are absolute hypocrites I have found. Only Jesus is perfect. And just before the law was going to be carried out by officials to stone an adulterous woman (a law which He as GOD wrote), Jesus told them: “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” All the men walked away. Jesus then told the adulterous woman some amazing news as the Perfect GOD and Man on earth: “Neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more.” Jesus was not about condemnation, but restoration. Although there are times when condemnation is the only route, we must learn to be more about restoration and love in our congregations, and less about judgment.
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All we ask is that you share this article with other people, so that their families and lives might be blessed for the glory of GOD. This is an article that every Christian should read. Donald Trump recently mentioned in a GOP debate that he wanted certain internet channels sealed off from the public that terrorists use in other countries. If this can be done, then why aren’t we sealing off the smut displayed publicly emanating almost entirely from our country as well. This needs to happen. Obscenity is not freedom of speech.
Speaking of Donald Trump, he has made promises to three wives and has bragged about many other conquests in his own book, yet the media seem to love him to death. In many ways, he mirrors Bill Clinton. Both are womanizers, liars, and Jesuit-trained. On the other hand, Josh Duggar had dirty thoughts and he is the topic of jokes and ridicule. I’m not excusing his actions, but it does make one wonder about the double-standard. In other words, the Bible says the world loves their own, but they hate those who follow Christ. The world prefers a Donald Trump who brags of his indiscretions instead of a Josh Duggar who showed remorse after he was caught. Yes, he was caught, but he could have acted like Trump and joked away his sins. He didn’t. This again is a sign of a nation in decline, when people exalt those who joke and brag on their sins, while showing judgment on those who act remorseful and guilty for them. Josh Duggar is a good example of how looking at the wrong sites can lead you astray. Don’t wait to repent after you’ve been caught. To this day, many question whether he’s repented or was just caught. That’s why it is better to come clean than get caught. And eventually, you will get caught. Let’s also show love to those who are caught and work to restore them instead of judging them. The key is to help people avoid destroying their souls eternally. Love them. Don’t allow false piety to destroy a brother who needs a helping hand and a kind word.
“Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” – Galatians 6:1
More activists, who exercise grace, mercy, love, and kindness, are needed to fight against the porn industry for the sake of those being victimized by it, both on the viewing side and the performing side. Many on both sides want help, not judgment. Less judgment. More solutions. More love. And that takes a culture emanating from the life and words of Jesus Christ. We need revival. Please join me in praying for revival – first in our hearts, then in our families and friends, and finally in our communities both locally and globally.
“For the whole Law is fulfilled in one word, in the statement, “YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.”” – Galatians 5:14
I love you, friend, and I trust that you will find victory in your struggle on this planet to do the right thing. It’s not easy, but it’s very fulfilling and brings great joy!